What You Say to Yourself Matters
What You Say to Yourself Matters
What you say to yourself affects your mood, actions and attitudes and even your mental and physical health. What you say to yourself in your mind matters even more than what you say out loud because what you say to yourself in your mind often even goes unnoticed and thus you are unaware of why something is happening but in fact if you pay attention, it is usually coming from your subconscious and what you have been feeding it over the years. Our internal dialogue affects how we perceive ourselves and the world around us. To change your reality or to improve it in one way or another, you must absolutely be mindful of what you tell yourself.
It has been shown repeatedly that often our thoughts create our own reality. If you could create your life with your thought and intentions, wouldn’t you create something good and positive? Well, you can, but first you must master your own mind.
Below are some tips, which can be used to turn around the self-talk, potentially leading to a positive impact.
1. Be Aware
Try to be as thoughtful as you can of the things you are saying to yourself. Next time you are talking with yourself (because we all do), pay attention to the words that you use. Are they negative? What purpose are they serving you? Are they true? You might be quite surprised about how often you put yourself down. The key to this is not being judgmental. The goal is to be aware and start changing those words into positives. For example, if you are doing something and you are not sure of what or how to do it, you might say to yourself “I am not smart enough” instead replace it with “I don’t know how to do it yet, but I will learn.”
Try to acknowledge what you say first and then remind yourself that it isn't helpful. Many times, what you generally say to yourself goes unnoticed. By being more aware of the monologue inside your mind, chances are, you are much more likely to challenge those thoughts.
2. Speak to yourself in Third-Person
Experts suggest, while in the time of distress and/or during the time of reminiscing painful experiences of the past, speaking to yourself in third person using your own name or non-first name pronouns, can help to stay calm, composed and collected without any additional cognitive effort.
You might feel a bit silly doing so at first, but it proves to have great positive impact and becomes normal quite fast. It allows you to look at yourself from the outside and often allows you to be less-judgmental towards yourself. It is a good way to start practicing positive self-talk.
3. Practice Positive Self-Talk
Just when you think and say anything negative about yourself, re-evaluate the position and rethink of the speech you were about to say. It is important to learn to stop saying negative words to yourself. After stopping speaking the negative words, rethink about those negative and hurtful words and convert them into positive go words that are more helpful. Speaking positively about yourself will make you will more confident and capable in your daily life, providing you the positive energy to take on any difficulties in life.
August 12, 2018
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